The bridge theory | Day in the life RCD

 

Hello RCD readers,

I came onto to this theory and it made me think about different relationships in my life. And the phase each is in. 

I've met best friends that I want to raise our kids with together. My ride or die that I can call to vent. To help me and they will come. They are always a phone call away. I've met people that almost daily shown me the respect,soft love and simple joy that I haven't fully gotten from others. People that shown me in their ambitious busy schedule my "world" is still important to talk about. 

And for somebody who hasn't had a lot of friends that were that way for me. You don't want to loose that or even let it change. 

But as a person who is trying to embrace change around me. I fight with letting go what is serving me now and giving me happiness.  But when I came onto this. It really helped a lightbulb turn on in my head.  

What if?

The ones that give me joy, safety, peace and ultimately love leave or the relationship changes. Will I hold on too long like I use to or will I let go with grace.

Not trying to be dramatic but it's a part of life. Things will change and sometimes into something beautiful.  I've been a friend back that I always wished other's where towards me as a teenager. Being supportive. Being loyal. Being treated with respect. No jelousy.  No hatred. No bullying. But simply pure love. And most important based on honesty not cruelty or passive aggressiveness. 

As life changes including mine. I have adapted so much self love for myself to just go back to the old me. I embrace the changes but this time with no regret. No cold cut off. No we are never friends again. No resentment. No judgement. But with the grace that the love will continue but in a different way. And that's okay. 

That includes showing grace to broken relationships with simply being a kind person back to their effort.