Food for thought | Day in the life RCD

 

Hello RCD readers,

Last week we had inauguration of the first female president of Suriname. It's a huge milestone and one in the books. I personally never watched her political side over the years so much to her being the first. It stops there. 

I prayed yesterday especially for these 5 year's.  I didn't believe in any of the political groups in May so I put it in God hands. I pray for God's guidance for this group. For God to make sure His will be done. Nobody who has any ill will their actions will not prosper. Because let's face it. This is really in God's hands.

I've self-reflecting about certain things these weeks. And praying for clearance on things that still felt uncertain. And I fell onto a short clip about mental health. I found it interesting mostly because I don't know the right answer and it's not my profession at all. 

Backstory:

They were talking about how people deal with past trauma. Mostly psychologist were meant. It was given out that they let you go back into the root of the problem by remembering your childhood and talking about the negative part with finding out the effects of that experience. It is something I was always told by some that actually went to a psychologist. I always thought okay that's normal you try to dissect your past.

And then this clip came and a lot of questions came up." Is it good to rethink past trauma or should you focus on the good in your present."      

The Weight of Yesterday: Does it hold you back or not?

We all have a past. It's a natural human tendency to revisit these moments, to pick apart what happened, to wonder "what if." Don't get me wrong it's an important part of healing but when it become excessive and a daily basis. This starts becoming you trapping your own mind in a jailcell you've personally created for yourself. 

See it as a rearview mirror. You moving forward and staying in that mindset. Similarly, fixating on past trauma, replaying it endlessly in your mind, keeps you from engaging with the richness of the present and building a brighter future. So yes it holds you back

Why do we do this still? The Illusion of Control

We think in some way we control the situation by analyzing. But this only leads to:

• Increased Anxiety and Depression:  it can deepen feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and worry.
• Stunted Growth:  there's no energy left to invest in personal development, new experiences, or building meaningful connections.
• Distorted Perception: Your focus is what you attract. That means thinking about the negative will give the perception of everything still being that way. Which it is not
• Isolation: Simply self isolation can make it difficult to be present with others, leading to withdrawal and loneliness.

Change the mindset by focusing on the Good and the Now

Not pretending nothing happened. I repeat don't act like it was all sunshine and rainbows. But by not holding on to it and keep reminding yourself to shift the focus towards the good NOW. It's about recognizing that while the past shaped you, it doesn't have to define your present or dictate your future.

Now why is this a good practice for you to focus on:

• Resilience: Building a mental muscles for resilience. You learn to bounce back from setbacks and find strength in everyday moments.
• Gratitude: Practicing gratitude shifts your perspective, helping you acknowledge the blessings in your life, no matter how small.
• Mindfulness: By being present this can reduce stress, improve focus, and deepen your appreciation for life.
• Opens Doors to New Experiences: You're more open to new opportunities, relationships, and adventures that can bring joy and fulfillment.
• Empowers You to Act:  The present moment is where all your power lies. It's where you can make choices, take action, and consciously shape your future.

So by learning this extra thing. I'm up for the experience or let's say the trail run:

- practicing gratitude by journaling

- engaging towards what really gives you joy, peace of mind and safety.

- keep it simple with the goals

- use your boundaries and disengage with anything or anybody that triggers you to past trauma. 

Ultimately, healing from past trauma isn't about forgetting; it's about integrating it into your story without letting it control your narrative. By consciously choosing to focus on the good, embracing the present, and building towards a positive future, you reclaim your power and open yourself up to a life filled with possibility and peace.