Silence | Day in the life RCD

Hello RCD readers,

As most know I'm really introverted and my social battery is mostly zero. I hate it sometimes because it comes off rude or stuck up. But I stopped caring about it as I use to when I was a little girl.

Observer

My super power is I see things others don't or care to acknowledge.  I see the slight irritation of a friend's comment that the other may not notice. I see that twinkle of I'm really tired that nobody cares to ask how are you and do you need help. I see the quietness of something bad happened that others don't acknowledged.  I see the fakeness when the unfunny joke appears. I noticed the unspoken words.

But I also see the fun of socializing with fellow friends that enjoy the same crazy things. 

I see the weird experiments together. The ongoing jokes about absolutely nothing just for the laugh of it. I see the ego left at the door. I see the crazy friendship bonds.

Quietness during difficult times

I've noticed my remedy to go through anything is prayer and focusing what is in front of me. Not anymore openly discussing every move I make. Not asking others what is best. But making decisions what I find works for me first. I use to overshare a lot. To the point I felt like a fool. Because it was my way to connect.  Until I noticed.  A birthday went by and nobody told they were about to turn a year older. An achievement was made and I didn't know they were close to it. The worst was. A child was born and I didn't know they were pregnant. I stopped overexplaining. Oversharing. But most of all learning to connect in more healthy manners. It sounds weird. And I'm still working on it but learning to connect in a space that not only fills my needs but also the person I befriended.  Meet the person where they can and accept where it is.

Give them silence if they ask for it.

This is the most important one. Trying to fix things that are not my responsibility or giving the person what they ask for with their actions. Oow I'm good at this one. It took awhile but finally. That childish response to contact when the person pushed back is hopefully gone for good. That eager child in me that needs to know why they pushed back and what can I do. Instead letting the person feel the result of their actions while letting them decide if they want to continue this friendship. When the person shows less to no interest in the friendship and you keep hanging on like it was in the beginning.  Time changes things. It's okay if the relationship does too. Everything in life has seasons. Just like a real love relationship.  Some days you won't feel as connected as in the beginning.  That is when real love comes in. People give up when things change instead knowing that real love has seasons. But guess what those seasons pass. Everything forced is a waste of your time. The love stays no matter how the other person changes. You're just in a different phase of the relationship and that's perfectly fine. 

Quiet chess moves

OMG. Friends thought me that years ago and finally doing it. I make silence moves. Not everything needs an announcement nor an audience.  That includes family, friends, loved ones plus you happy readers. Speak your dreams loudly in the universe.  But protect them from other's opinions.  Other's negativity. Other's bad wishes for your success. Other's own fear and anxiety pushed onto you. Keep it close to your heart and profess it to your Father. ( our savior). His opinion is what counts the most. I get to see the milestones every time and that simple " I did it guys" to my supporters when it's achieved is so worth it. 

Silence is a tool to create the life you want and also to enjoy it in peace.