"Hey Mama" | Day in the life RCD
Hello RCD readers,
For all my love birds. Happy Valentine's day. I'm such a romantic when it comes to these days. I love love.. But I also only accept romantic love from other's that can hold mine in return. If you understand what that means you've been in love.
Love is a beautiful emotion to have and to share with someone. It's pure and if it's from God. OMG you'll really feel God's presence and love. Anything force will never fully make you feel that.
But love is also sacrifice. It's choosing the other's wellbeing over yours. But the beauty is the right person will do the same in return.
Love is accepting the other as they are. But it's also encouraging the other to be better while still loving them where you met them. And being okay that they will be fighting to get where they could be in life for a long time.
Love gives a level of intimacy that is so amazing to have and experience.
You can only love purely and honestly when you've experience selflove and God's love.
Emotional intimacy
You trust the person entirely. You know they have your back in public, when you aren't there and when just you 2. When everything seems fine but you can't fully trust the person standing up for you when you are not there or just going where the room goes if it means bashing you. There's no trust in that. There is no relationship without trust. It doesn't exist. The level of real honesty and no room for secrecy this needs. The level of vulnerability both people can feel is the scariest but amazing part. And most of the validation you receive in return because of it. The real being you and feeling safe to be that way because you know they got you for real. Not for the clout.
Intellectual intimacy
OMG the hardest part but for my achilles heel. Deep conversation with somebody is best part I found. Mostly because I have to feel safe to share my thoughts with you. And getting the mental stimulation that it brings is amazing for yourself in bad days. I share this not with everyone. Mostly because I've chosen wrongly in the past and those conversations felt like oversharing with the wrong people. It doesn't feel like that with the right person. You call them any time and you just click and can talk hours with them. Best feeling. It calms my soul always.
Physical intimacy
This is self explanatory. But for me it was different in each stage of my life. When I was younger I never liked everyone to touch me. And I remember being overly stimulated in relationships. The high effect. But now it's more like a piece of me. It's not something I need to get a high or even a validation for myself within the relationship. Looking back it almost felt codependency. You need that hug. You need that ... to calm you down from the reality. I learned real quick that it wasn't healthy. Now it's a cherry on top. Am I still really a woman who enjoys physical touch. Hell yes. A hug. A kiss. A simple holding hands. The simple holding my hand a certain way makes me blush. The simple soft grasp. Never thought that simple gesture would be so ......
My favorite bible verse I learned years ago
1 Corinthians 13
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
This bible verse thought me what love isn't in reality. To experience this is an amazing blessing from God.
I do have to say a love that I was reminded of yesterday. It was a post that would not be able to describe perfectly.
Ps title is an inside joke. Hope you enjoyed the read. Have an romantic day everyone.
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